Turin, I ended up getting it working!! I didn't have any submods and still cannot explain why it didn't work in the first place. Once again I am running on Windows 8, 64-bit. I still don't know what the issue was, but here's what I did:
-Uninstalled and deleted everything.
-reinstalled both bfme2 and rotwk.
-manually added in a few missing files out of the winrar files on my ROTWK DVD because the installer is sketchy as fuck and missed things sometimes.
-updated both games, installed the "lotr update and fix.exe" to make bfme2 run.
-applied the "no CD fix" to Rotwk with daemon tools to avoid the no-cd error (and purple screen errors, etc).
-applied your old "bfme_startup_fixxer_.exe" to fix the ini error.
AND NOW EVERYTHING WORKS AGAIN
PS all of those files I mentioned can be found on Google in places like gamecopyworld and moddb. good luck to anybody with similar problems!!